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8-The Daily Collegian December 7, 1984 The Daily CoUegfa..f-» Into a family outing. Top page 9: For Jim Cruz a trip to the grocery store can turn into a family Top right: A typical morning in the Cruz household; Misty and Courtney appear more interested in watching television than citing breakfast. Top left: Coaching the Tarpy Elementary soccer team, of which Misty is a member, is also part of Cruz's life. Middle right: To make extra money he is _pey plays with a pair of boots. Middle left: While the younger daughter scins through a catalogue, Cruz does his Bottom: Before bed Cruz makes sure the girls have brushed their teeth, combed Special problems affect single fathers "Itisbecoi ing n e prcva As a single father, Jim Cruz doesn't lack in love or patience for his girls. It's the little things that arc perplexing to him as the only parent in their household. "One problem is their hair; trying to braid it, or put in ribbons or pony tails or double pony tails. Trying to make them look like girls," Cruz said. t that the father would rather have tody so he knows where his money 'i going," Terry said. She also said that women are mor often deciding to give up custody. Related story page 10 h.ldre and g other. hat h with their were not available for the number of sin¬ gle fathers whose children live with them, Carol Terry, president of Parents Without Partners, said there are more wortien .who have custody of their children. However, that is changing. Terry said. "Mothers have just started saying, 'I'm not going to cope with it anymorc'and are giving up custody rights." Cruz, who declined to give his age, has found that being a single father, especially of two little girls, has special problems. "It's hard being able to pick out the right clothes for the right age." he said. Cruz said it's hard to him to know if some¬ thing fits because he can't go into the women's changing rooms. "And then there's the bathrooms. They're at that age where they can go to by themselves, so 111 point to the right one and stand outside and wait for them," he said. Cruz recalled once standing outside a public restroom waiting for Misty. 6 and Courtney, 4, and a woman saw him wait¬ ing there as she went in. She gave him a dirty look, he said. "1 got to thinking, she probably thinks I'm some kind of a pervert," Cruz said. Later, the woman realized the two little girls inside the restroom were his and offered to help them. Cruz said that most people are more than happy to assist him. He said he's not bashful about asking for help in clothing stores, and will often ask a woman in the grocery store how she fixed her daughter's hair. There are some problems, however, friendly advice can't remedy. Although he and Donna, whom he is in the process of getting a divorce from, share custody of the children, Courtney and Misty only see their mother about 10 limes a year. They have been separated fortwo-and-one-half He said some people assume he is keep¬ ing the children from seeing their mother, when in reality, the current situation has been agreed upon by all of them. "Generally, I think people think I'm doing a good job when they meet the girls. But there is some awkwardness," he said. "I think the men are as responsible as class before. He likes to lake his girls almost every¬ where he goes, so dating is hard, he said. He doesnt know if hell- obc thew is full Cruz is a busy man. Along with load of classes, he is self-employed as a process-server. He travels all over Cali¬ fornia in the summer and as far aw*y as Merced during the school year for his job. Because he isn't married, if the girls get sick, things get complicated. "As a single parent, I have to be ready for illnesses and colds that can happen at six in the morning. Then 1 have to skip school and try to find someone to take care ofthe kids,"he said. "I Ve taken them my little girtf Cruz, who also has a son and a daughter from another marriage, said his love of children started while fighting in the Viet¬ nam War. For two weeks he helped a pri¬ est ar an orphanage in Vietnam. "I wish I could have taken those child¬ ren home with me," he said. After he was discharged from the Army, Cruz came back lo his native Fresno, and attended Fresno City College. He became a deputy, and worked for the Sheriffs Department for eight-and-one-half years until he decided to attend CSUF and become a coach and teacher. But because of financial problems, he doesnt know if he'll ever get hit teaching credential. He said he11,probably go back to the Sheriffs Department. "1 may have to go back to law enforce¬ ment in order to obtain good benefits for the children." "It really taxes your ability. Just because you're an adult doesnt qualify you lo be a The pressure .of raising the girls on one income and going to school is heavy, he said. "I become frustrated sometimes because I dont get a chance to study. Sometimes 1 stay up all night studying." "Sometimes I geta little angry with God because he doesnt give me enough hours. 1 just hope lha vent bitten off more than 1 "Somethimes the girls can sense that I'm tense and they'll come in and see me, and give me a hug, and that makes it aB worthwhile." {
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Title | 1984_12 The Daily Collegian December 1984 |
Alternative Title | Daily Collegian (California State University, Fresno) |
Publisher | Associated Students of Fresno State, Fresno, Calif. |
Publication Date | 1984 |
Description | Daily (except weedends) during the school year. Microfilm. Palo Alto, Calif.: BMI Library Microfilms, 1986- microfilm reels; 35 mm. Vol.1, no.1 (Feb 8, 1922)- |
Subject | California State University, Fresno -- Periodicals. |
Contributors | Associated Students of Fresno State. |
Coverage | Vol.1 no.1 (Feb 8, 1922)- to present |
Format | Microfilm reels, 35 mm. |
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Language | eng |
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Title | Dec 7, 1984 Pg. 8-9 |
Alternative Title | Daily Collegian (California State University, Fresno) |
Publisher | Associated Students of Fresno State, Fresno, Calif. |
Publication Date | 1984 |
Description | Daily (except weedends) during the school year. Microfilm. Palo Alto, Calif.: BMI Library Microfilms, 1986- microfilm reels; 35 mm. Vol.1, no.1 (Feb 8, 1922)- |
Subject | California State University, Fresno -- Periodicals. |
Contributors | Associated Students of Fresno State. |
Coverage | Vol.1 no.1 (Feb 8, 1922)- to present |
Format | Microfilm reels, 35 mm. |
Technical Information | Scanned at 600 dpi; TIFF; Microfilm ScanPro 2000 "E-image data" |
Language | eng |
Full-Text-Search | 8-The Daily Collegian December 7, 1984 The Daily CoUegfa..f-» Into a family outing. Top page 9: For Jim Cruz a trip to the grocery store can turn into a family Top right: A typical morning in the Cruz household; Misty and Courtney appear more interested in watching television than citing breakfast. Top left: Coaching the Tarpy Elementary soccer team, of which Misty is a member, is also part of Cruz's life. Middle right: To make extra money he is _pey plays with a pair of boots. Middle left: While the younger daughter scins through a catalogue, Cruz does his Bottom: Before bed Cruz makes sure the girls have brushed their teeth, combed Special problems affect single fathers "Itisbecoi ing n e prcva As a single father, Jim Cruz doesn't lack in love or patience for his girls. It's the little things that arc perplexing to him as the only parent in their household. "One problem is their hair; trying to braid it, or put in ribbons or pony tails or double pony tails. Trying to make them look like girls," Cruz said. t that the father would rather have tody so he knows where his money 'i going," Terry said. She also said that women are mor often deciding to give up custody. Related story page 10 h.ldre and g other. hat h with their were not available for the number of sin¬ gle fathers whose children live with them, Carol Terry, president of Parents Without Partners, said there are more wortien .who have custody of their children. However, that is changing. Terry said. "Mothers have just started saying, 'I'm not going to cope with it anymorc'and are giving up custody rights." Cruz, who declined to give his age, has found that being a single father, especially of two little girls, has special problems. "It's hard being able to pick out the right clothes for the right age." he said. Cruz said it's hard to him to know if some¬ thing fits because he can't go into the women's changing rooms. "And then there's the bathrooms. They're at that age where they can go to by themselves, so 111 point to the right one and stand outside and wait for them," he said. Cruz recalled once standing outside a public restroom waiting for Misty. 6 and Courtney, 4, and a woman saw him wait¬ ing there as she went in. She gave him a dirty look, he said. "1 got to thinking, she probably thinks I'm some kind of a pervert," Cruz said. Later, the woman realized the two little girls inside the restroom were his and offered to help them. Cruz said that most people are more than happy to assist him. He said he's not bashful about asking for help in clothing stores, and will often ask a woman in the grocery store how she fixed her daughter's hair. There are some problems, however, friendly advice can't remedy. Although he and Donna, whom he is in the process of getting a divorce from, share custody of the children, Courtney and Misty only see their mother about 10 limes a year. They have been separated fortwo-and-one-half He said some people assume he is keep¬ ing the children from seeing their mother, when in reality, the current situation has been agreed upon by all of them. "Generally, I think people think I'm doing a good job when they meet the girls. But there is some awkwardness," he said. "I think the men are as responsible as class before. He likes to lake his girls almost every¬ where he goes, so dating is hard, he said. He doesnt know if hell- obc thew is full Cruz is a busy man. Along with load of classes, he is self-employed as a process-server. He travels all over Cali¬ fornia in the summer and as far aw*y as Merced during the school year for his job. Because he isn't married, if the girls get sick, things get complicated. "As a single parent, I have to be ready for illnesses and colds that can happen at six in the morning. Then 1 have to skip school and try to find someone to take care ofthe kids,"he said. "I Ve taken them my little girtf Cruz, who also has a son and a daughter from another marriage, said his love of children started while fighting in the Viet¬ nam War. For two weeks he helped a pri¬ est ar an orphanage in Vietnam. "I wish I could have taken those child¬ ren home with me," he said. After he was discharged from the Army, Cruz came back lo his native Fresno, and attended Fresno City College. He became a deputy, and worked for the Sheriffs Department for eight-and-one-half years until he decided to attend CSUF and become a coach and teacher. But because of financial problems, he doesnt know if he'll ever get hit teaching credential. He said he11,probably go back to the Sheriffs Department. "1 may have to go back to law enforce¬ ment in order to obtain good benefits for the children." "It really taxes your ability. Just because you're an adult doesnt qualify you lo be a The pressure .of raising the girls on one income and going to school is heavy, he said. "I become frustrated sometimes because I dont get a chance to study. Sometimes 1 stay up all night studying." "Sometimes I geta little angry with God because he doesnt give me enough hours. 1 just hope lha vent bitten off more than 1 "Somethimes the girls can sense that I'm tense and they'll come in and see me, and give me a hug, and that makes it aB worthwhile." { |