1991_12 The Daily Collegian December 1991

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The Daily Collegian e December 5, 1991
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PREGNANT?
THE GOOD NEW IS*
GEORGES HAS A
I remember my sister's blood
By Frank Pancho Aviles
Today I was reading the
newspaper and it was red again.
Sometimes when I look at the
newspaper, it brings back ugly
memories. I remember when my
brother and I were digging in
my sister Teresa's trash, we
found a newspaper with blood
on it. I told my mother about the
bloody newspaper and she told
me the blood was from my
sister's period. She told me that
my sister's husband, Carl, made
her use newspaper instead of
Kotex. My brother thought it
was funny. He said, "Should we
save the funnies ot the sports for
her for next month?" My brother
didn't think that it was that big a
deal, but I knew it was.
Ever since my sister got
married at age 17, her life begin
to change. Before she was
married, she wouldn't leave the
house without fixing her hair,
putting on makeup or nice
clothes. She was always going
out with friends too.
When she was 17, she
thought (hat she was pregnant
So she had to marry her boy¬
friend, Carl, one of the cutest
athletes in school. A few weeks
after she was married she found
out she wasn't really pregnant.
Doctors said it was a mistake or
false alarm.
Nonetheless, she was married
and Carl added new rules to her
life. She was no longer allowed
to cut her hair, wear makeup,
shave any body hair, use
Clearasil, or use shampoo. He
also made her get rid of all her
clothes. Only months after her
marriage she seemed like a
completely different person.
Her hair was always greasy
because her shampoo was
replaced with body soap. Even
though she wasn't pregnant, she
only wore maternity clothes or
polyester flair pants. (Carl
bought her this clothes at the
swapmeet) And whenever she
got pimples, he would put
toothpaste, Crest, on them at
night. She would sometimes say
that the Crest burned. She also
became very thin because he
monitored her food intake. He
also refused to let her talk to any
of her friends.
At one point my older brother
beat the shit out of Carl and
brought Teresa back to the
house. My dad convinced her
that she could go back to school
and put this marriage behind
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her. Unfortunately, months later
her stomach begin to grow.
When Carl found out she was
pregnant, he would come to visit
her and my dad felt he had to
allow this. My dad didn't want
the child to grow up without a
father.
Eventually, Carl convinced
my sister to go back with him.
After she had the baby her life
became an even worse night¬
mare. The doctors told her that
the baby had mild Down's
syndrome and that if she had
any more kids there was a fifty* /
fifty chance of them having
Down's syndrome.
Despite the doctor's warning,
Carl wanted more children, at
least four more. My sister, tried
to take birth control pills, but
eventually Carl found out and
threw the pills away. For three
years my sister lived with the
fear of getting pregnant and
having a baby she didn't want  *'
Once when my sister, Linda,
spent a night at Teresa's house,
she saw something terrible. She
said that she walked into the
living room while Carl was
forcing Teresa to have sex with
him. In fact, he placed a pillow
over Teresais face while raping
her. Teresa told Linda not to tell
anyone.
After living in fear for about
four or five years, she finally
decided lb leave her husband.
After she left him, he hunted
her down. When he couldn't get
her back, he took her child. The
only way she could get her child
back was to live with him again.
Because she wanted her child,
she went back to him. That night
she let him have sex with her
and she pretended she liked it.
In the morning when he went to
work she took her child and ran
to my parents' house. Although
he harassed her for a few years,
she is now free from him and has
a new life.
Right now my sister is
partially free, but there are a lot
of women out there that are still
living in bondage.
Women are being mentally,
physically, and economically
abused everywhere. Women are
being beaten and mutilated
every day and our society is
J lowing this. We need to realize
that violence against women is
not okay. And we need to realize
that my sister's blood is
everyone's blood.
Mr. Aviles is a columnist for The Deity
CoUegian.
Heterosexuals are not better than lesbians
You've picked a fine time to
misquote me in The Collegian, joe
M. Torres. I'm in the middle of
finals. I have assignments due,
totaling over 40 pages, and I
certainly resent having to take
time out in order to correct your
mistakes.
I feel I have no choice but to
respond to your mistakes as The
Collegian would not take the
responsibility in doing so since it
was not an editorial mistake, but
a writer's misrepresentation of
ait informant
So here, I am informing the
readers of TheCollegian that you
Mr. Torres, unfortunately,
misquoted *e presentation Ix
had delivered to the audience
that attended the violence
against women's discussion
panel on Monday night.
I was there representing the
lesbian community and respond¬
ing specifically to the violence
that is directed at the lesbian
(bashing) that is based on
heterosexism which is in
definition the ideology t ha t
heterosexual relationships are
superior to other types of
relationships. That statement   .
was never fieant to be taken out
of context by simply quoting the
definition without the term and
reason I was defining it.
To all the lesbians and gays
on campus and to those that do
not tolerate hate Crimea or
statements that promote such
crimes, please accept this
corrected version of the state¬
ment 1 actually made. And in the
future, Mr. Torres, think
logically and critically when
writing a story. A lesbian, in
most circumstances, would not
make the statement that hetero¬
sexual relationships are-superior
to other relationships.
To the other misquotes you
made in your article, splicing
fragments of my discussion
together, I do not have the time
to respond to; and although you
made me sound as though I
thought love would take care of
violence, I'll ignore it because
that idea is not harmful to the
community I proudly associate
myself with.
However, I can't believe, I
wished you had, you didn't
quote me as saying the follow¬
ing: a certainly, in the United
States of America will not grieve
the loss of my sexual orienta¬
tion." Quoting that would have
delighted me and would have
given The CoUegian reader's
something to think about.
Happy Finals Mr. Torres,
Kelly Jantzen