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Valentine's Day
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By Stefanie Monahan
Staff writer
*'~r Tonesty is the best
XJL policy"is a maxim
that applies to more than
snitching a pack of Twinkles
from a 7-Eleven.
Honesty is vital to communication because it affects familial, romantic and professional relationships.
1 think it is difficult for
humans tobe truly honest and
think it is espedally
Jt now because people
aren't receptive to honesty,"
said Diedra Werner, a public
relations major. "If s frustrating and discouraging to be an
honest person among members of a society which tells me
to hide everything I feel."
Too many times people try
topresenttrerjestpossibleside
of themselves," said David
Nelson, an English major. "If s
as If they are trying to sell
themselves."
Because of this tendency.
Nelson thinks people often end
up dating people whom they
don't really know.
"There are more people
who play games than those
who are honest," said Al
McLeod, professor of sodol-
ogy. "Generally, those who
share openly arid honestly are
very rare."
According to McLeod, in
shame is the main reason that
honesty is avoided.
"We push feelings down
because of shame," McLeod
said. He went on to say that humans have a deep need for acceptance and approval. Shame violates this need.
"We are less honest and truthful. Sometimes we actually lie so
that we can avoid shame," McLeod
said.
He also said that overcoming
this shame is difficult but it is
possible to recognize that honesty
is vital to open communication.
McLeod believes that those who
deal with reality by communicating honestly and openly promote
this behavior in others, helping
them overcome their feelings of
shame.
Beth Hartung, a CSUF professor of sociology, said that when
we attempt to openly communicate we must remember "to know
what we want to convey, stay focused and take responsibility for
our actions."
The technology and mass com-
munication in today's society have
greatly affected the issue of honest
and open communication.
"I believe society is becoming
more puritanical and repressive
rather than open... we receive a lot
of information, but think about
things less," Hartung said.
McLeod, however, believes
humans are evolving and moving
in a direction of a more open and
honest world because of mass
communication. He believes that
mass communication creates
awareness and opens up issues
forringsodety into therapy, which
is chaotic and difficult.
There is a physical, moral,
mental and spiritual evolution going on. It may seem as if we are
going downward, but I believe
we're going upward."
No Wine
No Dinner:
No
Thank You
Some say I'm a cynic
Is it true what they say?
Of course \ m a cynic-
\ hate Valentin*sDay\
What's it all about
this day set for love,
Ws a joke for the dateless
Sent down from above.
TrWr^li be flowers and dinners,
red wine and red hearts
But for God's lonely sinners,
Only beer and pop-tarts.
By Glorybeile Cendana
StaffWriter	
Imagine hearing these words on
Valentine's Day: 1 don't think we should
see each other anymore.'
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, try
listening to someone else's sob stories. It
might make you feel better. What do you
do if you get dumped on the day that your
partner is supposed to show his or herlove
roryou?
One woman says to self indulge. "I'd
say splurge on a triple-decker sundae or a
big banana split, said junior Chrissie
Bonar. Getting jilted would be one of the
worst things to happen when you least
expect it she said. After the sundae I
would probably crawl into my bed and
cry." she said.
Most people say self-pity is worthless.
Senior Eric Ingram says the best thing to
do in this case is to be around as many
people as possible
"I would go out and have myself a good
time. ..1 wouldn't be alone, that's for sure."
Ingram said.
A lot of students agree thatbdng around
others is a good way to get your mind off
things. A party is the perfect place, says
Paige Devers.
When asked what advice she'd give to
a dumpee she said, "I'd say go to a party
and get real drunk. But what I would
really do is go home and bawl."
Junior Holden Stedman says not to
waste your emotions on just another calendar day. If s only a big deal for guys
when they have a girlfriend, he said, and
they don't want to upset her by not getting
her anything.
"For a guy, Valentine's Day is one of the
days you nave to come through on or you're
in big trouble." Stedman said. He added
thatyou're probably better off bang single.
Christie Pacheco, freshman transfer student, agrees that you're better off without a
date.
"It would be the best thing to happen to
me right now. I've wanted to break up with
 waiting far.
"Ifs getting to the point where I get sick
when he Huaiw too long. He won't read
una. He's at the WBOl I transferred from-..
too bad" she said.
One man interviewed said it wasn't pos
sible for guys to get crumped.
"Get real. Girls don'tdump guys,"
Dertnis Qaborn said. "But if 1 got dur
Sophomore f3randon Bates said breaking
up with someone right before Valentines
daywoukibelikebreakir^itotfrightbeforc
"Plainsrupid. If he or she'ssmart, they'll
wait until the day after," Bate* said.
Others aren't as ready to give up on
their relationships. Senior Mark Nichols
said he would be very upset if his girlfriend dumped him on any day.
"I wouldn't show it to her. I'd go out and
do something to make her regretit instead.
Nothing stupid, but something to make her
come crawlmgback,- Nicholssaid.
According to Joe Marra, revenge could
make up for a broken heart
"1 would invite one of her friends to
Tahoe and..you can figure it out But if I
were really in love with her I'd try to win
" er love Back, Valentine's Day or not,"
-larrasaid.
Junior Trish Ryan says she doesn't understand why people make such a big deal
out of Valentine's Day. She threw a theme
party last year for the occasion.
Ryan called it a "Losers-Without-Lov-
ers-Getting-Loaded-and-Maybe-Lucky"
party. "It was a joke to play on my friends
but a lot of people showed up. People I
thought would nave had dates for sure.
"We all laughed at each other because
we were all dateless, but we were there to
have a good time. I don't remember if
anyone got lucky, but everyone definitely
partied" she said.
Ryan said Valentine's day should be no
different than any other day.
"If you sit home feeling sorry for yourself because you don't nave anyone to
share it with, she said, "then you probably deserve to be dateless."
Nutritionist blames
folks for fat genes
By Andrea Purl	
Staff Writer
Lefsbehoneston this businessof being overwdght:
a if Mom and Dad were porky, there's a fat chance
you will be, too.
"Weight is determined by genetics," according to
nutritionist Cynthia Osboume, meaning you can't
just choose what you want to weigh, ifs genetically
predetermined, thanks, Mom and Dad.
Osboume, a registered dietician, has been at the
Student Health Center for seven years.
"I wanted to work in wellness," she explained.
Osboume finds that the hardest part of the job is
persuading students that the height-weight tables
can be wrong.
Her primary responsibilities at the Student Health
Center focus on counseling students or athletes who
either come in concerned with weight management
or their cholesterol levds
Some students feel that having Osboume at the
Health Center is a great idea.
"I think ifs great having a nutritionist oncam-
pus," said Jennifer Bent, a junior majoring in telecommunications.
Junior Nancy Suire agrees "If I had any problems, 1 would definitely go to her."
Osboume sees students with a distressing
number of eating disorders, mainly bulimia. She
feels this problem is mostly related to low self-
esteem and poor eating habits.
Osboume said that dieting, which can be dangerous and extremely detrimental to one' s
heal th,is the basis of eating disorders.
"Ifs a team effort within the health center to
help a student with an eating disorder," Osboume
said. She usually refers such students to the Counseling Center or a physidan.
She believes students don't always make good
choices in order to be healthy and to have more
energy.
"You can't overdose on junk food and expert to
feel good." she said.
Osboume is a marathon runner and she believes exercise is also a big portion of feeling good.
She recommends that any exercise, like walking or
bicyding, is an excellent way for someone to feel
better.
Is she recommending that we all should run
marathons?
"Anything is better than nothing." she said.
Parking pays off big
By Christie Sundberg
Staff Writer
a hold on the studenfs vehicle regis- will enforce it"
tration — making it virtually impoa- CSUF s*\xV*nt_	
sible to register the automobile until in the Breuners' parking lot at the
all fines are paid. comerofShawand Cedar may also
P» arking on campus is costing        Parkirtgfinesmaybemailedtothe wish they hadh'tThe furniture store
CSUFstudentsmorethantheir    court, but students can try pleading is enforcing its no parking policy by
$54 parking sticker — if they are    thdr cases before a Court judge. towing students' vehides.
"Weh
parking illegally, that is
"You have to park illegally to
get to class on time," said CSUF
student Kristi Johnson. She esti-
The judge does not have to be
iVe had the policecomeouttwo
sympatnetic to the student, however,    semesters ago and show us where
He m     *
may decide to have students to put the no parking signs," the
paythefinesinfulloroptforcommu- store manager said. There hasn't
mates she has had to pay at least    nifV service, been much of a problem since we
$400 in parking tickets over the        There are 4,767 student parking started enforcing the rule."
last three semesters A janitor roams
for parking in staff the parkine lot at 7
lots or for expired      (^BB^BHBB^BaaBBHBB^BBHB^^B^HIBaB^BaBBIBBa^B^B^B^BB      a.m. and has the
parking meters vehicles towed
cEJSSS    "We're not in the parking lot business/'    JSffiwSK
write roughfy 250 —Breuner's store manager. » w* know the
parking tickets a °                              cars don t belong
clay, which now ..._^.^_-«______^^^^_                        to customers," the
cost $16 each and manager said,
double every 20 Other employ-
days, accordingto parking officer    places on campus, but with 19,824    ees patrol the lot during the remain-
Fred Martinez. That couldadd up    students enrolled at CSUF (fall 1991    der of the day b   '
to approximately $300,000 a se-    enrollment), over-crowding causes    vehides towed.
"No Excuses"
makes no
excuses
The CHnlon/flowers scandal
has prompted at least one business to seize the moment and
cash in on a good thing. A No
Excuses jeans advertisement
displays the foUowing caption
below a picture of Bill and
Hillary air
To Hillary Clinton — The
modern "NoExcuses" wife, who
doesn't care how many ladies
there are as long as she's the
FIRST lady."
The Clintons weren't told in
advance of the ad.
They never would have approved it"said Clinton spokeswoman Dee Dee Myers, speak-
ing to USA Today.
mester without any late penalties many to try off-campus parking so- "We are not in the parking lot
This would not reflect ocket rev- lutions — at their own risk. business," the manager said,
enues from parking in red zones        Students attempting to park on Parking in the dirt lot next to
or handicapped spaces Shaw between Barton and Cedar will Wendy's fast food restaurant on
"After five or more (unpaid) now be subject to ticketing. This area Cedar is another alternative, ac-
tickets, the car can be towecf and isronsidered tobeinalaneof traffic cording to CSUF student Heather
you must pay all the fees, indud- and unsafe for parking, according to Borzoni.
ing towing," Martinez said. This Lt Steve King, campus police officer. Borzoni avoided purchasing a
policy was enacted about a year        Kingsaidtneyhaverequestedhdp parking sticker because "you are
ago. from the dty to enforce what is sup- never guaranteed to get a space" on
For students with unpaid tick- posed to be a "No Parking" area, and ompusSheusesuSislotfrequently.
cts, it only gets worse. All parking the dty is row undergoing efforts to Borzoni has had to pay a price,
tickets received on campus are post 'TJo Parking" signs along the though — her car was towed from
subsequently turned over to the entire section. this lot the first week of classes and
Fresno Munidpal Court Traffic        "We hope to have that clearly de- it cost her $70 to retrieve it
Djyjsion and, ifleft unpaid, cause fined real quickly,"^aid_King. "We Rk*w U*** Mfcdal to th, ertku.
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